Tuesday, December 11, 2007

Don't pity me, but do give me grace.

I guess I am addressing the dreaded deployment again. First, please forgive me if I don't answer questions about where he is stationed or when he is coming home(I don't know when he is coming home anyway.). I am going to try very hard not to publish information that could even have the remotest possibility of jeopardizing operation security as I do not want to do anything that could cause my husband(or someone else's) to get injured. So -- the deployment.... Is this our first separation? Sadly, no. We have spent -so far- over the course of our 12 year marriage, approximately 2 1/2 years worth of it apart. Is it hard? Absolutely. Is it a sacrifice? You bet. Sometimes in ways my family and I don't even realize (let alone people who aren't living it). I appreciate every person who says, "Thank you for your sacrifice." or "I appreciate what your husband is doing for me." Pray for us, for sure. Offer your support, yes please! But please do not feel sorry for us. This is a life we have chosen for ourselves and our family. We accept the sacrifices and the separations and possibility of wrenching loss. We also have an amazing built-in family wherever we move to and I never have to worry about whether or not I can take any one of our children to the doctor when they need to go. We make enough money for me to stay home full-time with the children and still be able to eat. It has given my husband the opportunity to fulfill his role as our provider and our hero and gives him meaningful and challenging work to do. His job has brought us to our current station where I have seen him step into the role of the Christian head of our household; Where we got baptized as a family and where (due to the lack of worldly distractions) I have become a bajillion times better of a person as I have focused more and more on my walk with God. The LORD is my Shepherd, I shall not want.


His Girl said...

again, beautiful.

my friend... you are truly a role model of perspective keeping for me.

i thank God for every remembrance of you.

Shauna said...

Welcome to the blog world. Your post brought tears to my eyes. While I don't pity you, I do have the utmost respect for you and your family. It takes great courage and great faith to walk the road you're on, and I thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Your posts are beautiful, insightful and inspiring. I'm glad you joined the mob of bloggers. I'll be back!

Becky said...

What an inspiring outlook you have on things. So true. My sister and her hubby are in the Military, (as well as a whole slug of extended family). Our family remains prayerful for our troops, as well as very thankful for what they(and their families that support them from the homefront) do.

Erin said...

Just when I think that I can't be more proud to say you are my friend........I have seen first hand what Charlie means to you. It can't be defined. It is in your facial expression. There are many married couples out there in this world, and only with you two have I seen cherish, commitment, teamwork, grace, tenderness, and what love truly means with two people. You have it no matter where you both are.

Marsha said...

I never thought about the danger of revealing place and time. Sorry about that. I have added you all to my military to pray for prayer list.

When Katrina hit in '05, my hubby was gone for 6 months to help with the clean up in NOLA. At least I got to go see him 3 times!

I'm enjoying your writing.